Stubborn Friends

I know a guy who will yeah yeah yeah you so you stop talking and then he'll go fuck up his life regardless of what advice you give him. And then wonder why his life is so fucked up. These people I will never get. There is a simple solution... ...ask for help. Unfortunately, pride...ego and whatever bullshit you have when you are younger with a chip on your shoulder gets in the way. When I started learning golf (and still learning) I asked every and all stupid questions. Turns out everyone sucks at the game except the professionals. Everyone else is just shooting with mechanics in mind. HOWEVER, it never prohibited me from learning or asking. Then adjusting. TOO MANY people in the movie business have something figured out and it never is figured out. The best you can do is to plan on A) staying consistent B) staying the course The people who wash out should have seen it like a slot machine. You can't win if you don't keep playing (great for this business, horrible if you're a degenerate gambler). When you leave this town, most do not come back. For whatever reason, this is a pipe dream. I know of a couple who left Los Angeles. Both came out with aspirations to be in the film industry, both became "adults" and decided this was too much to deal with. Both are huge Leftist who will probably annoy their new neighbors back south East. They don't cotton to "big city fucks" shoehorning their Leftist propaganda. They will suffer accordingly. But it's still a better place to raise a family than this place. Podcaster Joe Rogan knew this. Got paid big bucks and high tailed it for dryer land. The thing about this city is, it's run by politicians who were lifers. They could care the fuck less about "entertainment" business if they want to hobknob with the famous elite. Well, that's going away regardless of what governor Moron gavin newsome (spelled lower case for effect) thinks. This dude is so fucking stupid. He panders to the majority of the city and the illegals to get their votes, then does shit. The smartest thing he and mayor fuckface eric garcetti ever did was beg federal government to send in troops to quelle rioters once the hit the rich neighbors. Can't have the famous celebrities NOT donating to their cause (themselves). Had no idea newsome was nancy pelosi's nephew. How fitting. Pelosi needs to be kicked in the cunt. Preferably twice. The idiot jabbers on and tries to spin the truth like she's a whore barker outside a cheap strip joint. Nice fake tits and botox gramma. She really believes looking cheap makes her believable. Doesn't help all the other Democrat women follow suit. kamala harris? Jesus christ is she scary ugly. As mentioned before, she got big sucking off Willie Brown (capitalized because he was brave enough to shove his stick into the bear's mouth). Anyway, the more stubborn you are to try to fight this city the worse off you will be. The trick is to NOT make movies the ONLY thing you care about. Care about hooking up with hot new gash (plenty here). Or writing your memoirs. OR, maybe work harder than anyone else in this town without having to hobknob. Your focus, if it's important to you, is your script and your ideas and your execution. Hollywood is a big enough place to disappear but also not big enough where if you have a work ethic you will survive. I am no longer dragging anyone along with me. Did that too many times for newbies who came here because they thought this city was going to be easy. Even though they probably knew, logically, it was hard. Or to get away from their parents. Not to be a total dick, but there is something rewarding when you hear of people leaving this city. Less traffic but also...you outlasted one other person who thought they knew the system better than you. Also, STOP LYING TO YOURSELF. This gets to me more than anything else. I talked to a friend how much I hate being on set. And if you've followed this blog, you know I've mentioned it a few times. Yes...I hate being on set. But I like being on set when I have something to do. Or that I can contribute. OR that people listen. The friend told me that I am in the wrong business if that is my attitude. This from the mouth of a newcomer to the city. Here's the ONLY thing a newb can say or ask "Why do you hate it so much?" Followed by "oh man, I see your point." Too many newbs enjoy being on set. Why? Because they're idiots. Or they work on garbage projects where no one cares. OR they're being funded by relative. Look, grow the fuck up and see it as work. It has fun MOMENTS. It's not fun. And oftentimes, very dangerous. You owe so many people at the end of the day, and you suffer because you can't afford what is going on in your mind. Regardless of all that, you HAVE to be happy with what you get. And know that's what you can get. I was never happy compromising. But I do. William Goldman (celebrated screenwriter, so fucking listen) said it as well. You won't be happy doing this. If you are, you aren't doing it right. And if you think this is a fun ride, you're retarded. Rejection, anger, ego is just a small part of what will really suck. Having to work a 9 to 5 (incidentally, I offered a job to the friend leaving town and hadn't heard back about it...see? Guess it wasn't that important). Okay, so it's true you don't have to be in Hollywood to make any sort of movie. Completely understand, and agree. You do have to admit to yourself you came out here for a reason. And then you failed. That is a moment to regroup and rethink. Perhaps even tell doomsdayers like me that I fucking warned you. Everyone gets the warning, no one hears it. So, be open minded to the downside of the business. Which, more and more now is corporate. You know that saying "do what you love, you'll never work another day in your life." Guess what they left out? Prepping you for a struggle. Because in most minds, it's that you love what you want to do, don't have the resources to do it and never will. I once asked a prominant director of photography how he navigates through this business. His answer... focus on what's in front of you. Most people already focused on who they think they are. The arrogance will kill you.