Ray Rice is a running back for the Baltimore Ravens. He has been now kicked out of the NFL for striking his fiancee during an altercation in a casino in Atlantic City.
Before I comment on this situation, I want people to know that I've got two sisters and a mother. Hitting women is WRONG. Absolutely awful. We, as males, are physically bigger. Have probably grown up with physical violence (school yard fights, high testosterone, anger issues). If anyone would strike them, I'd be the first to step up to the asshole who did it.
Which is why I'm really confused as to where this woman (Janay Palmer's) family is? Where are they in this situation?
Here's what I'm confused about, in this case. They finally released the tape within the elevator when Ray struck Janay. She gets knocked out cold, and then dragged past two different people. She'd been drinking that night. And...as rumor goes, was asking for more money to gamble with. To which Ray (again all rumors) denied her. This is when you can fill in your own conclusions. My guess is that she may've said something or hit him first or whatever. The point being...she isn't innocent as we think, just because she was the one knocked out. Now, women groan about being treated equal. I feel being part of that is to realize that you cannot say what you want and then cower under the guise that a guy won't physically attack you. Yes, it's against the law to strike another human being, but I think it's easier to believe a woman can be attacked and not a man. This is frustrating when you realize women know what buttons to push. Conversely, we as men, need to understand that walking away from this situation is also our right in equality.
Here's what troubles me. On every single sports and news station, they've blown this up bad. Not bad. It's a nuclear cloud. The zero tolerance of domestic abuse has swung the pendulum so far the opposite direction, that no one has yet stepped up to ask a truly fundamental question: why is this OUR problem?
Some may scream "Hey fuckface, this is all our problems, you can't hit people and think you can get away with it?" Oh yea...O.J. Simpson ring a bell? And I guess the follow up to that is, the attitude in that case was "well, THAT'S the reason why you report it. Nope. WRONG AGAIN.
Nicole did report it. Know what else she did? Made excuses for him. Then took him back. A lot of you are probably thinking that I'm blaming the victim. O.J. was victimized too. I'm sure he felt (and this is in NO way how I feel) inadequate. This is the hot button Nicole knew. Pressed it anyway. In fact, he was constantly being a P.O.S. philanderer to prove to Nicole his supposed "value" (how he probably thought). Then it was World War 3. Both sides are at fault. And you expect police to get in the middle of this? It's probably the WORST thing they have to deal with. Including crackheads and heroin junkies. They probably would rather take the toughest beat in Watts over this junk. Was it a reason to murder her? Of course not. But anyone who's ever trapped in that scenario knows it escalates. Sometimes to a point of no return.
Listen...this is domestic abuse in the worst case possible, in the O.J. case, he took it to the next level. BUT society can't help you if you can't help yourself. And your fellow sisterhood out there, is screaming and dragging you from a bad situation. That YOU don't want to leave. There is NO law that says they have to listen to you. And for that, you can't help feel a twinge of "well, you get what you get than. Because you know what you got yourself into." Pundits fucking suck. They put the blame on Ray. But then these hypocrites start yelling about how you can't blame a person with psychological issues. Ray's got anger issues. As a smaller person in a BIG person world, he's had to fight his way through the line. NO ONE gives him that credit. He's earned a ton of money for having moxie. YET, we don't give him the leeway that the man needs help. Domestic abusers are monsters in their own right. But some who don't want to blame addiction, seem to want to lash out at someone like Ray.
Janay Palmer is NO angel. I think we'd all like to pretend that she's a lady. But she's no lady. Anyone of us would be fed up with her. And she of us, since we don't have the bread Ray has. Gold digging, I suppose, is a two way street. He is in the understanding that she only wants him for money. She has to abide by those rules as well. As this well will eventually run dry, he must realize she will find others.
I hate the fucking assholes who judge this situation, when they haven't a clue as to their personal life. I don't care. It doesn't effect me in any way. Just like O.J. It's between them and the law. The rest of us are just opinionated shit-heads.
Guess what? Janay married Ray Rice anyway. To which I say "can't help you there then."
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