Social Media Closed The Window On More Potential Dates

As if guys didn't have more to worry about. Social media, this insidious peer to peer evaluator has closed more windows for potential relationships than we'd like to admit.

The irony.

Because isn't social media suppose to be used for...y'know...socializing. Instead, it's reduced the average man's ability to date properly.

I've touched on this in the past, but I think it bears examining.

A woman, despite what she may deny, is constantly on the judgment page. They evaluate EVERTHING. Clothes. Hair. Butt. The other girl's butt. Boobs. Job. Face. The other girl's boobs, etc..

They've carried this hyper-criticism into their internet lives. Now, instead of having a circle of friends judge their potential mate, you have a gazillion bazillion people. With opinions. And NO ONE online is remotely kind.

For every YouTube video put on about them and their boyfriends, you see the comment page. Count them. More negative then positive. While I understand that it's sometimes fun to crack wise on people who would dare post this (and true, they are putting this up for scrutiny), the comments go from mean to ruthless.

You think women want to post a picture of the man their seeing on Facebook and have their wallpapers blow up with comments? Do we really wish people well with their relationships? No. Because we're all haters in our own way. Mean angry lonely haters. Who would love to pass on their misery to others who may have had an opportunity to find happiness. Instead, now women may be looking for mates that, if posted would make their friends and extended network jealous.

Think about how often women dress up to go out. This dressing up isn't for us men. It's to make their girlfriends look plain. To paraphrase Chris Rock "women hate women."

Yes, there are friendships. And some would claim to have masculine tendencies. But for the most part, women are only happy when their envied.

To the "normal" guys...that sucks. The comments will be polite. Rarely will their social network friends write "oh, he's a hottie, you're really lucky." Instead, they're comments such as "Good to see you going out again!" or something more innocuous.

Yeah, a lot of this comes from a very personal place. I understand that when you interracially date, the stakes become higher. And it takes two parties with self-confidence and esteem to overlook the cruel cruel world. Conversely towards the women side though, I can see the self-conscious pain you may face. For example, you see comments that draw attention to their age, weight, hairdo and clothes. How are you going to win?

This is social media. And it blows. Use to be, all you needed was approval of each other. Now, you may be facing the world. Good luck to us all.